Gayspeak

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  • We offer the most fun and engaging free forums – online friends community for gay-bi-curious and gay-friendly men, women and teens to chat.

  • 16 Reviews on “Gayspeak”

    1. Daz Gayspeak
      Overall Rating:
      1

      Gayspeak is a ‘clicky’ community made up of people who are mostly the same person. The website is ‘ruled’ by a tyrannical webmaster and his many profiles running outdated and insecure software that leaves members exposed to security threats.

    2. Tyler Gayspeak
      Overall Rating:
      1

      When I joined Gayspeak, advertised as a “support forum for gays, bisexuals, and lesbians”, I had hoped being exposed to people that were LGBT on a daily basis would help me come to terms with my sexuality, and to eventually come out of the closet to my friends and family.

      I would like to say Gayspeak helped with this, but it was external changes in my personal life that propelled me to come to terms and become more open with my sexuality. Gayspeak, however, did give me an opportunity to meet new friends, and discover that gays, lesbians, and bisexuals are made up of a huge variety of people — which is something I’ve only just been learning first hand.

      Unfortunately, the webmaster does not take an active role in the community — unless you count the fake accounts created to artificially increase the perceived community as an active role. In addition, the rules listed on the site are not effective in moderation. Mutes, bans, and IP bans were routinely given out for transgressions not located in the site rules, and no attempt to update them was made after significant discourse on the site’s forums. As a result, many members of the core community have either left or been banned from the forums, increasing the ever present problem of inactivity and lack of new traffic, which perpetuates the atmosphere of stagnation that seems to exist within the forums.

      In addition to these significant problems with the webmaster and community, the forums are also plagued by trolls, who utilize the site’s anonymous feature to create flame and luring threads. Though the site makes an effort to deter trolls by implementing a minimum post count to use features, like the anonymous feature, the recurrent anonymous troll threads are a consequence of the forums moderation problems, and active members on these forums are guaranteed to fall victim to such a thread if they remain a member on Gayspeak.

      These moderation problems are exacerbated by the site’s self moderation system, which while rather unique and brilliant, does not replace the need for site moderators as a whole. Unfortunately, this leads to cliques, and long time members can and occasionally do ban other forum members based on transgressions not found in the rules. As a long time member, this fortunately never applied to me, but I occasionally observed this occurring. Problems with the moderation system were never rectified, despite extensive feedback in the site’s suggestion threads.

      In summary; while Gayspeak purports to be a support forum for Gay, lesbian, bisexual, and transgender persons, the site is more likely to add stress to already stressed persons. It is unlikely that this is the best resource for an at risk individual, who may discover inflammatory posts, lose friends through erroneous bans/mutes due to poor application, or lack of application, of forum rules, or not fit into the site’s cliques.

      An alternative forum is recommended.

    3. Partisan Gayspeak
      Overall Rating:
      1

      Very badly organised and managed no moderators lots of bitching and arguing, be careful what you choose to share.

    4. Chris Gayspeak
      Overall Rating:
      1

      As with all groups of this kind and this includes yahoo groups, 99% of members are not pro active and expect others to offer all the input and then they moan when nothing is offered while putting zero in themselves. You will always get a small minority of people hosting, writing and offering input and these are the people who keep a group going while being bitched by those who offer bugger all.

      I am on over 200 yahoo groups and involve myself with most while there often seems NOTHING happening and even the moderators seem to give up – sick of trying to motivate others into being pro active in the very group they chose to join and yet offer nothing in return.

      I run http://www.hamiltonhall.info and it is hard to get guys involved and we rely on a core group who have an interest otherwise many expect it all for free – when it suits them – and offer nothing in return while taking from others.

      Don’t blame the group or web site – it is only as good as the members allow it to be.

    5. Chuck Gayspeak
      Overall Rating:
      5

      I’m an active member of gayspeak, it’s been a great place to be. I’ve seen a lot of people post messages looking for answers, that receive great replies of support.

    6. East Gayspeak
      Overall Rating:
      5

      My favorite gay website by far. Andy moderates the site very well and the people are some of the nicest you will find on any of the gay sites on the internet.

    7. m. mizanin Gayspeak
      Overall Rating:
      5

      I love this site. I don’t know why some people are going around trashing this site; I’ll bet it is because they got bounced for trying to troll. It is not true that there is no moderation; the site owner gets rid of trolls almost immediately and keeps them from returning.

      It is also not true that all the moderation is automated. There are very real people in the background ensuring that the place stays fun and safe for all the members.

      Unlike some of the other sites, everyone here seems genuinely nice and supportive. There aren’t the baiting threads, racist threads and celebrity fan boy threads that seem to now totally dominate some of the other sites.

      You’ll find that a number of thread topics are copied on other sites which must prove that it is good.

    8. Virge Gayspeak
      Overall Rating:
      4

      As a newcomer to GaySpeak five months ago I noticed that it was by far the least porny and troll infested gay forum I’d found. The biggest frustration I experienced with the site was its probationary restrictions which I quickly realized were in place to ward off trolls. People interested only in flame wars don’t last long. It’s not a forum dedicated to hook ups and that’s refreshing.

      Most of the forum topics are focused towards resolving problems, helping newbies come to terms with being gay — all done politely with care, honesty and good hearted humor. Overall everyone is very friendly and fun loving. The few that aren’t are the types of serious people who always have great insight into issues.

      Reading some of the earlier negative comments about webmaster Andy and moderators… I was pretty shocked at first. But after some thought I realized how unique GS is because members all seem to moderate themselves better than in other sites. Conflicts generally are resolved before they erupt into situations that require moderators. As an example — not long after I joined East (see his comment below) said something that really rubbed me the wrong way. Neither of us resorted to a flame war, discussed the issue like mature people should — realized we’d never agree — laughed about it and he became one of the people I like best in GS.

      Everyone in general has a positive attitude and is supportive to all others.

      The only bad things I can say about GS are….
      1, occasionally some members abuse their ability to post anonymously for idiotic reasons. That has really come to a halt after a few of us became assertive about.
      2. They don’t serve drinks
      3. We have to clean the bathrooms ourselves.

    9. Shifty Gayspeak
      Overall Rating:
      4

      I am on the site a short time but it seems to be a respite from exactly the sort of thing described in prior reviews, which is what brought me there from another/similar site.

      Thus far everybody has been cordial, no flame wars, and the advice given seems thought-through, not dismissive “move on” type answers.

    10. rareboy Gayspeak
      Overall Rating:
      4

      I like this site because it is populated by a lot of interesting, genuine people of all ages and types….and that it doesn’t have the typical trolls posting threads that are designed to bait other members in order to create violent disagreements and flame wars. The site isn’t just window dressing for skeezy porn sites or just a portal for ‘Live’ on-line sex-chat…if you are looking for a good place to interact with others…this might be the right fit for you.

    11. Ryan Gayspeak
      Overall Rating:
      5

      I found Gayspeak when I got bored on one of the other sites and saw that a number of others were spending more time on Gayspeak.

      At first the site seemed really quiet, but I kept returning again and again and started to see that more guys seemed to really enjoy it here more than on the other sites I hung out in. These days, there even seem to be more posters and new members than on the other boards I check out.

      I read the testimonials thread on the site a couple of days ago and realize that this site has helped sort me out on a number of occasions too.

    12. Watson Gayspeak
      Overall Rating:
      1

      GaySpeak professes to be a support group for LGBT people. I was really excited when I joined; I thought it would be a great way to meet other gay guys and maybe make new friends. My results were disappointing, to put it mildly.

      Basically, the site consists of, and seems to be ruled by, a clique of maybe 12 or 15 core members, pretty much all of whom have thousands of posts and their names displayed in rainbow lettering. They’re sort of okay at handing out advice to brand new people, and VERY good at stroking each other’s egos, but that’s about it.

      In my two weeks there I saw a LOT of judgement and hate. I saw about six of the aforementioned core posters gang up on newbies a couple of times, saying they were trolls and so on. The same newbies are still there, trying to fit in. It’s sad. I also saw LOTS of REALLY hateful posts, some of which were very long. I’m talking ten or twelve computer screens long.

      Why is this permitted to happen? I’ll tell you why. Because there are no moderators. If you tick off one of the core posters, woe be unto you. You’re on your own.

      GaySpeak did nothing but add to my stress in an already stressed-out life and I am happy to say that I deleted my account and got rid of it. Do yourself a favor and steer clear.

    13. Mr Kipling Gayspeak
      Overall Rating:
      1

      This place seems to have a bunch of splenetic members from another gay forum who have once again come together to take over another site with a condescending (holier-than-thou) attitude. The welcoming to the newbie posters is nothing more than a forgery attempt to play the nice guy act, but put the posters down at the same time.

      Not a good place if you’re looking for genuine advice, especially from the particular group formed there from another forum who show a nastier side on the other forum such as the one with shark secret police and the old man with the bile temper.